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Unearth the Soul Within

Hi, I'm Umeko

Honestly? I started this coaching journey thinking I had it all sorted. Good life, positive outlook, ready to help others.

What actually happened?

The training shifted something in me - I couldn't place it at first, and continued on with my day-to-day life like everything was normal. Slowly, I started to force myself to actually look at who I was, and you know what I found? I had no idea. I spent my entire life always being the "easy-going" one and choosing the path of least resistance, so I built a life that looked perfectly fine from the outside, but was not authentic to me.

It was a slow realization, but it was a doozey. I had to step back from coaching because I was struggling so hard and made some extremely difficult changes to start changing the trajectory of my life.

Now? Because I lived through the patterns - the people-pleasing, the self-abandonment, the perfectionism, the self-doubt, the emotional disassociation - this is what I help others shift.

By understanding the deeper conditioning underneath these patterns, through a blend of nervous system awareness, emotional processing, subconscious exploration, and reflective inner work, we begin unearthing the layers of who you’ve been taught to be.

This work isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about unearthing who you’ve always been beneath the conditioning, expectations, and survival patterns - and learning how to feel safe being that person.

Certifications

Certified Holistic Life Coach
Emotional Processing & Nervous System Regulation Certification
Certified Mindbody Practitioner
Law of Attraction Coach
Inspired Spirit Coach
Certified Vinyasa & Hatha Yoga Instructor
Reiki Level 2 Practitioner
Shamanic Practitioner

To learn more about my story, click the 'About Me' button.

About Me

Discover Your People Pleasing Archetype

Take the quiz to find out what people-pleasing patterns you have!

The Soul Excavation Program

1-on-1 Coaching

I support women in coming back to who they really are - peeling back people-pleasing, perfectionism, and old patterns, so they can reconnect with their emotions and start living a life that feels honest and aligned.

Shift From:

Not knowing who you really are
Shaping yourself around others’ expectations
Constantly second-guessing yourself
Holding yourself to impossible standards
Numbing or avoiding your emotions
Feeling disconnected from your own needs
Living in your head instead of your body
Feeling lost, even when life “looks fine”

Shift To:

Knowing who you are beneath the conditioning
Feeling safe to experience and express your emotions
Trusting yourself without constant second-guessing
Releasing perfectionism and unrealistic standards
Choosing yourself without guilt
Feeling at home in your own body
Moving through emotions instead of avoiding them
Living in a way that feels true to you

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Coaching Packages

1-on-1 Coaching Options

Single Clarity Session

Duration: 60 Minutes

Structure:

One 60-minute session
Support: Follow-up email support for integration and reflection
Materials: Access to selected resources and guided exercises based on sessions insights

Benefits:

Immediate Insight: Gain clarity on a specific block, decision, or goal
No Commitment: Perfect for first-timers or those needing a tune-up
Focused Energy: Laser-focused support to shift energy and mindset quickly

Reconnection Package

Duration: 4 weeks

Structure:

Weekly Sessions: One 60-minute session per week (4 sessions total)
Support: Personalized accountability reminders and unlimited email/messenger support during the month
Materials: Access to selected resources and guided exercises

Benefits:

Focused Guidance: Targeted support on specific challenges or goals
Flexible Commitment: Ideal for those seeking short-term assistance
Immediate Application: Quick implementation of tailored strategies

12-Week Soul Excavation Program

Duration: 12 weeks

Structure:

Weekly Sessions: One 60-minute session per week (12 sessions total)
Support: Personalized accountability reminders and unlimited email/messenger support between sessions
Materials: Access to exclusive resources, worksheets, and guided meditations

Benefits:

In-Depth Exploration: Comprehensive understanding of your mindset and habits
Sustainable Change: Development of long-term strategies for personal growth and reconnection to your authentic self.
Holistic Integration: Reconnect with your emotions, your needs, and your inner voice.

What to Expect

Personalized Approach: Each session is customized to address your unique needs and aspirations.
Confidential Environment: A safe space to explore your thoughts, beliefs, and goals.
Actionable Strategies: Practical tools and techniques to facilitate immediate progress.

Single Clarity Session

One Hour 1-on-1 Virtual Session

$111

Reconnection Package

4x One Hour

1-on-1 Virtual Session

$333

12-Week Soul Excavation Program

12x One Hour

1-on-1 Virtual Session

+ Personalized Transformational Guided Audio

$888

You don’t need to become someone new - you just need to come back to yourself.

Have questions or want to get started? Send me a message - I’m happy to connect!

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My Clients Say

"Hi! My name is Cheryl and I have recently reached out to Umeko for help! Before we met, I was angry with the world and myself, I was under constant 'Defense mode" and blamed my actions on other people. I became so aware of these negative habits, but I just didn't know how to change them. Once I reached out to Umeko, she was more then willing to take me on! We set up an appointment a.s.a.p and the journey started. She helped me to be true to myself, made me face some real hard truthful questions, and she held me accountable!
Through Umeko's help I am able to take a step back and process things better, I feel like i can breathe again! I feel like I have control of my life again! Thank you so much for everything you do Umeko, you are an angel!"

Cheryl G., Residential Cleaner

A Science-Backed Approach to
Reconnecting With Who You Are

I blend science with deeper inner work to help you come back to who you really are—not become someone new.

Many people struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and feeling disconnected from themselves—not because something is wrong with them, but because they’ve never been taught how to understand their own mind, body, and emotions.

That’s where we start.

I guide you through the science of your nervous system, subconscious patterns, and emotional responses so you can see why you think, feel, and behave the way you do. When you understand the patterns, it becomes easier to stop fighting yourself—and start working with yourself.

From there, we move into the deeper work of reconnecting with your emotions, your needs, and your sense of self. Instead of bypassing how you feel, you learn how to actually be with it, process it, and use it as information.

This creates a shift that isn’t about forcing change—it’s about uncovering what’s already there underneath the conditioning.

By the time we’re done working together, you won’t just have new habits or strategies—you’ll have a stronger connection to yourself, a clearer sense of who you are, and the ability to make decisions that feel honest and aligned with you.

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About Me

Everyone's got trauma's, right?

Hi, I'm Umeko. If handed a long list of experiences and situations that were traumatizing, I know everyone would have at least a few, if not a lot that they could check off.

Growing up, I was told many times how important reputations were, how long it takes to build them, and with one wrong turn, how quickly they can be broken. This concept was expressed with intensity, so I took on that responsibility with serious conviction. Additionally, I was brought up to never show weakness - when upset or hurt, don’t cry about it in front of others. I convinced myself that if I controlled everything on the outside, I could keep everything on the inside from falling apart. So, this is what I presented to the outside world: a permanently perfect appearing life.

Was this actually true?

Of course not. Only in my more recent years have I begun to be able to show or accept any kind of fault - to share hardships of mine with others. For so long, I couldn’t, because I shamed myself for any wrong-doing or mistake I made. The ultimate perfectionist. The reality is, I’ve had trauma of varying degrees sprinkled all throughout my life. From those traumas stemmed negative beliefs, self-sabotaging behaviors, and a wicked inner critic.

Anxiety? Oh yeah.
Perfectionism and imposter syndrome? To the max.
Beliefs about society and money that had stunted my ability to be able to gain success and financial freedom? You bet-chya!
Times of feeling horribly lost, stuck, stagnant, disconnected, uncertain, and depressed? You know it!

Most of the people who knew me had no idea I was going through any of this, since I was obsessed with always making it seem like my life was perfectly fine! I was also:

An absolute people pleaser who would never defend myself because I was terrified of upsetting anyone
Having complete lack of boundaries in almost any regard
Using alcohol to numb myself out of situations
Staying in toxic relationships for way longer than I should have

The idea of facing myself was scary.

As if I’d unlock the box and everything in it would erupt and devour me; like I’d have to live in constant emotional anguish, or others would see me as weak. All I’d ever known was how to beat down and cover up anything I thought was ‘WRONG’ with me, allowing my inner critic to grow ever more powerful.

The turning point: understanding myself instead of trying to fix myself.

This is when everything started to shift. I stopped looking for ways to change my life from the outside, and started looking inward - at my patterns, my emotions, and the beliefs I had been operating from.

I began to understand how my mind and nervous system were shaping the way I showed up, and why I kept repeating the same patterns. Instead of pushing past how I felt, I learned how to actually be with it, process it, and listen to it.

That’s when things changed. I stopped abandoning myself, started trusting myself, and began making choices that actually felt right for me.

The reality is, when I started to dissect the beliefs I had created, most of them were based on fears—not facts. By facing these beliefs one at a time, I’ve allowed my mind and body to actually finish processing the emotions tied to them. This means that they can finally be released, instead of being harbored in my body, patiently waiting just under the surface for the right trigger—like a serpent coiled in the shadows, waiting to strike at the perfect moment to sabotage my efforts.

I’m not perfect now!

This is an ongoing process, but I’ve experienced a level of emotional freedom I didn’t think was possible. My life feels completely different—not because I became someone new, but because I’m finally living in a way that feels true to me. I trust myself, and I make choices that actually reflect who I am.

I’m not here to dazzle you with fancy words or promise that I can help you manifest your perfect dream life or become your ‘highest self’—heck, I’m not there yet, and I doubt anyone claiming they are, actually is. When you choose to work with me, you’re choosing to work with someone who’s gone through that inner struggle of processing uncomfortable things and turning them into growth; someone grounded and here to share the knowledge she’s gained to help you on your path to emotional freedom. I would love to be a part of your healing journey; the part that helps you move forward and take great strides towards the life you choose for yourself.

Certifications

Certified Holistic Life Coach
Certified Mindbody Practitioner
Emotional Processing & Nervous System Regulation Certification
Certified Law of Attraction Coach
Certified Inspired Spirit Coach
Certified Vinyasa & Hatha Yoga Instructor
Reiki Level 2 Practitioner
Shamanic Practitioner

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Publications

The Quantum Manifestation Journal

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The Quantum Manifestation Journal: A 6-Week Guide to Aligning Mind, Energy & Intention.

This journal is designed to help you create change from the inside out. Over the course of six weeks, you’ll explore the connection between science and spirituality, and how your thoughts, emotions, and daily actions can shape the reality you experience.

The journal is divided into three parts:

The Foundations — an introduction to the neuroscience and quantum principles that explain how manifestation works.
The Vision — guided prompts to help you get clear on what you want, why it matters, and what might be standing in the way.
Embodiment — six weeks of daily morning and evening pages, plus weekly and monthly check-ins, to help you stay aligned, take small steps, and reflect on your progress.

Along the way, you’ll also find creative practices like scripting prompts, mini challenges, and space to create your own “frequency inspiration board” — all designed to keep the process engaging and meaningful.

This isn’t about quick fixes or wishful thinking. It’s about learning to align your inner world with what you want to create, and showing up for yourself each day with intention and awareness.

Six weeks from now, you may find yourself thinking, feeling, and living differently — closer to the version of yourself you’ve been hoping for.

The Habit Tracking Journal

The Habit Tracking Journal is your guide to transforming your habits and achieving personal growth. Designed by an Mindset & Manifestation Coach, this journal combines reflection prompts, goal-setting exercises, and progress reviews to help you build, shift, or break habits effectively. Whether you’re looking to improve your routines, boost productivity, or cultivate mindfulness, this journal empowers you to stay on track and motivated. Start your journey today and celebrate the progress you’ll make along the way!

It includes prompts to get you focused on the habit you would like to start, stop, or change, 12 weeks of daily habit tracking, and multiple check-in pages along the way.

Your Companion for Change: This guided journal provides a supportive space to help you reflect, plan, and transform your habits with ease.
Like a Coach in Your Pocket: Thoughtfully designed prompts and tracking pages guide you step-by-step to build better routines and overcome obstacles.
From Intentions to Results: Turn small daily actions into lasting changes by staying motivated and celebrating progress along the way.
A Gift for Growth: Share the power of habit-building with anyone seeking clarity, productivity, or personal growth.
Transform Your Life One Day at a Time: Start your journey today with a tool that inspires you to take control of your habits and create the life you want.

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When we're triggered by something, we revert back to the age of when what wound began.
When we're in an activated state, it's simply not possible to think logically because we're operating from our limbic brain, or our emotional brain. It functions on a primitive level compared to our neocortex (where logic lives).

We need to recognize those child-like responses within ourselves so that we can start to reprogram them.

Instead of feeling angry at yourself for reacting that way "you always do", come at it with curiosity:
Where is it stemming from? When was this response something that protected you?

#healingjourney #personalgrowth #authenticity #peoplepleasing #emotionalintelligence

Something I often hear is people guilting themselves for struggling because they view their life as relatively easy compared to others.

One of the most common ways people invalidate themselves is by saying:

"But my life isn't that hard."
"Other people have it worse."
"I shouldn't be struggling with this."

The truth is, pain isn't a competition.

Your nervous system doesn't measure your experiences against someone else's before deciding whether you're allowed to feel overwhelmed, hurt, anxious, lonely, or exhausted.

Many people who struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional suppression learned early on that their feelings were too much, inconvenient, or less important than everyone else's. So instead of processing their emotions, they judge them.

You don't need a tragic backstory to deserve compassion. You don't need to earn the right to struggle. And you don't need to justify your feelings before you're allowed to acknowledge them.

The healing starts when you stop asking, "Do I deserve to feel this way?" and start asking, "What is this feeling trying to tell me?"

Your experience matters ❤️

#peoplepleasing #authenticity #personalgrowth #healingjourney #guilt

Most people think emotional suppression is the problem.

But what if it's actually the solution your nervous system came up with to keep you safe?

For many of us, suppressing emotions wasn't a choice. It was an adaptation.

A way to avoid conflict.
A way to gain approval.
A way to feel safe in environments where our emotions weren't welcomed.

The problem is that those same survival strategies often follow us into adulthood long after we need them.

Healing doesn't start with judging these patterns.

It starts with understanding them.

#emotionalsuppression #peoplepleasing #authenticity #healingjourney #emotionalintelligence

STOP AVOIDING YOUR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS.

Emotions are information. They're your mind and body's feedback system, helping you understand your thoughts, nervous system state, and deeper beliefs.

The goal isn't to suppress anger, anxiety, sadness, or frustration. The goal is to understand what they're communicating.

When you stop fighting your emotions and start listening to them, you can actually start gaining control over them.

If this is something you want to learn more about, follow along.

#emotionalsuppression #emotionalregulation #emotionalintelligence #nervoussystemregulation #personaldevelopment

Most people think emotional suppression looks like "holding it together."

In reality, it often looks like:
• Staying busy 24/7
• Saying "I'm fine" when you're not
• Feeling exhausted for no obvious reason
• Carrying tension in your body
• Having reactions that seem to come out of nowhere

You've spent so long disconnecting from your emotions that when you’re asked “how do you feel about this?” you most likely don’t really have an answer - or, you look to someone else to see how they're feeling and gauge your response off of them.

Which one of these signs hit you hardest?

#emotionalsuppression #peoplepleasing #healingjourney #selfawareness #personalgrowth

Healing doesn’t make you mean.
It just makes you less available for self-abandonment.

A lot of people who grew up people pleasing mistake boundaries for being “rude” because they were taught that keeping everyone comfortable was more important than being authentic.

So healing can feel strange at first.

You stop over-explaining.
You stop saying yes out of guilt.
You stop managing everyone else’s emotions like it’s your full-time job.

And surprisingly… some people won’t like that version of you.

Not because you became cold.
Because you became harder to manipulate, overextend, or emotionally drain.

If you struggle with people pleasing, perfectionism, emotional suppression, or fear of disappointing people — this is your reminder that boundaries are not cruelty.

You’re allowed to choose yourself too.

#peoplepleasing #authenticity #healingjourney #psychology #peoplepleaser

Many of us were taught that being "good" meant being accommodating.

So we learned to stay quiet.
To over-give.
To ignore our needs.
To make ourselves smaller so other people could stay comfortable.

But kindness and self-abandonment are not the same thing.

You can care deeply about others without betraying yourself.

What boundary are you currently learning to honour? 👇

#authenticity #peoplepleasing #selfabandonment #healingjourney #personalgrowth

A lot of people were taught that being “good” meant being agreeable, emotionally low-maintenance, and endlessly accommodating.

So now we call ourselves “nice” while secretly feeling exhausted, overlooked, resentful, and emotionally stretched beyond capacity.

Because being nice often means:

avoiding conflict
suppressing your real feelings
over-explaining boundaries
saying yes when you mean no
prioritizing comfort over honesty

But healthy relationships don’t require you to abandon yourself to keep the peace.

You’re allowed to:

have preferences
disappoint people sometimes
say no without writing a formal apology email
communicate directly without being cruel

Authenticity will feel uncomfortable at first if your nervous system learned that approval equals safety.

But clarity is not meanness.
Boundaries are not selfishness.
And honesty is not cruelty.

#peoplepleasing #boundaries #authenticity #healingjourney #peoplepleaser

People pleasing looks harmless until you realize you’ve built your entire personality around avoiding discomfort, disappointing people, and over-explaining your boundaries like you’re presenting a legal defense case 😭

If you:
☀️ panic when someone’s upset with you
☀️ say yes when you mean no
☀️ over-give until you’re exhausted
☀️ feel responsible for everyone’s emotions

…this isn’t about becoming “selfish.” It’s about learning that your needs matter too.

If you struggle with perfectionism, emotional suppression, boundaries, or anxiety around disappointing people, this is for you.

#peoplepleasing #psychology #boundaries #authenticity #peoplepleaser

A lot of people pleasers think their survival responses are just “who they are.”

“I’m just really easygoing.”
“I don’t need much.”
“I’m fine with whatever.”
“I hate asking for help.”
“I’m just super independent.”

But sometimes those aren’t personality traits.
They’re adaptations.

Because when you grow up believing love, approval, or safety came from being low maintenance, emotionally controlled, and easy for other people to deal with… you learn to disconnect from your own needs.

So now you struggle to:

* express preferences
* take up space
* ask for support
* disappoint people
* even know what you genuinely want

And the hardest part?
A lot of this gets rewarded.

People praise you for being “mature,” “selfless,” and “so easy to be around,” while you slowly abandon yourself in the process.

Self-abandonment becomes so normalized that authenticity starts to feel uncomfortable.

Healing is realizing you were never supposed to earn your worth through self-erasure.

#peoplepleasing #selfabandonment #hyperindependence #highachievingwomen #authenticity

If you feel disconnected from yourself, struggle making decisions, or don’t know what you want anymore… people pleasing might be the reason.

Especially for high-achieving, hyper-independent women - self-abandonment can become so normal that we trick ourselves into believing the performance we put on, is actually us. That's what happened to me - I never realized how deep it actually ran, until I started questioning it.

#peoplepleasing #selfabandonment #healingjourney #authenticity #highachievingwomen

I thought being “easy to love” made me a good partner, but really I was shape-shifting, suppressing my needs, and abandoning myself to feel chosen.
Healing has meant reconnecting with my truth, rebuilding self-trust, and realizing real love should never require self-abandonment.

#selfabandonment #peoplepleasing #healingjourney #selfawareness #personalgrowth

The "good girl" response is exhausting.
The panic - the urge to explain yourself - the need to make sure no one thinks your selfish, difficult, cold, or wrong.

Being okay with being misunderstood doesn't mean it wont hurt, but that short-term hurt is hell of a lot more tolerable than life long abandonment.

Unlearning that conditioning is deep nervous system work, but it is absolutely possible and that's what this page is here for 🤍🙏

#nervoussystemregulation #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #selfdiscovery #selfabandonment

Radical responsibility.
If you let it go - the blame, the story - all the time and energy poured into clinging to this "broken" identity - if it was erased from your memory - what becomes available to you? Who do you get to become?

#transformation #personalgrowth #authenticity #healingera #healingjourney

So many of us become highly skilled at adapting to be whatever everyone else needs, that we end up losing ourselves in the process - often, without realizing it.

This ETF session is to reconnect with who you actually are - the authentic you that was buried under years of always being whoever or whatever everyone else needed you to be.

#etf #nervoussystemregulation #peoplepleaser #findyourself #healingera

A lot of high-achieving women don’t realize they’ve built their entire identity around being useful, successful, emotionally self-sufficient, and easy for everyone else to love.

So when they finally stop and ask themselves:
“What do *I* actually want?”

There’s silence.

Not because they’re broken. Not because they’re incapable.
But because years of people pleasing, emotional suppression, and hyper independence disconnected them from themselves.

When your nervous system has been trained to prioritize approval, productivity, and other people’s comfort… authenticity starts to feel unfamiliar.

That’s why so many women who “have it all together” secretly feel lost.

Healing isn’t becoming someone new.
It’s reconnecting with the version of you that got buried underneath survival mode.

#peoplepleasing #highachievingwomen #identityloss #hyperindependence #healingjourney

For all the "good girls" who are sick of being a good girl.

A lot of us learned that being "good" meant being agreeable, self-sacraficing, emotionally accommodating, and endlessly understanding - at the expense of ourselves.

Letting someone misunderstand you is actually an act of power.

Over explaining, softening your truth, taking responsibility for other people's actions, twisting yourself into someone easier to accept - all of these give your power away.

Let yourself be misunderstood. Take your power back.

#selfabandonment #peoplepleasing #healingera #peoplepleaser #selfdiscovery

If someone being angry or disappointed in you feels physically and mentally unbearable, your nervous system is likely still carrying old survival patterns.
People are allowed to feel whatever it is they feel, which comes from whatever they have experienced and hold as beliefs - but you do not need to manage it or take it on. You are allowed to stay calm within it. 🤍🙏

#etf #healingera #selfdiscovery #peoplepleaser #nervoussystemregulation

Knowing your people pleasing Archetype can help you find your way back to yourself 🤍 It's like having the road map - seeing where you got lost - you can retrace your steps to find your way back.

#peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #findyourself #selfdiscovery #healingera

You can look successful. Responsible. High-functioning.
…And still be living from survival mode.

A lot of survival responses don’t look dramatic.
They look like overworking. Overthinking. People-pleasing. Hyper-independence. Staying “fine.”

Because when your nervous system learns that safety has to be earned, survival starts feeling normal.

The hard part?
You can’t heal patterns you think are personality traits.

Awareness is where everything begins.

If any of these signs resonated with you, this is your reminder:
You are allowed to soften without falling apart.

Which one do you notice most in yourself? ↓

#peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #highachiever #survivalmode #nervoussystemregulation

Guilt is often a conditioned nervous system response.

If you grew up learning that:
• your needs upset people
• setting limits caused conflict
• love felt conditional
• being “easy” kept you safe
• disappointing others meant rejection

…then your body may have learned to associate boundaries with danger.

So even when saying no is healthy, honest, reasonable, or necessary — your nervous system still reacts like you’re doing something bad.

That’s why people pleasing is rarely just about being “too nice.” It’s a survival adaptation.

EFT helps bring regulation to the body while you consciously process the beliefs and emotional patterns underneath the reaction.

Because healing people pleasing isn’t just learning to say no. It’s learning to survive the feelings that come after saying no without abandoning yourself to make them go away.

Your discomfort is not proof you’re wrong.

Sometimes it’s proof you’re doing something differently.

#peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #healingera #etf #personalgrowth

Emotional suppression is not the absence of emotion.
It’s the nervous system adaptation of learning that feeling certain things didn’t feel safe, useful, welcome, or manageable.
So instead of fully processing emotions, many people learn to:
• intellectualize them
• minimize them
• distract from them
• stay productive through them
• numb them
• rationalize other people’s behavior before acknowledging their own hurt

And over time, the body learns to keep functioning while disconnected from itself.

That’s why emotional suppression often doesn’t feel dramatic.

It feels normal.

It can look like:
• chronic tension
• emotional numbness
• difficulty crying
• feeling disconnected from joy
• always being “fine”
• struggling to identify what you actually feel
• exhaustion that never fully goes away

Your nervous system is not trying to ruin your life.
It adapted to protect you.
But protection and connection are not always the same thing.
A lot of healing starts with building the capacity to stay present with a feeling for a few extra seconds before immediately trying to escape it.

#peoplepleasing #lifecoach #selfdiscovery #findyourself #peoplepleaser

Someone is angry at you. What's your first instinct? 👇

Most people pleasers don't realise that the pattern looks completely different depending on the type you are. Some assume it's their fault, others work hard to prove their worth, others go quiet, while others deflect.

Knowing which one you are is the first step to actually changing it.

I built a free 2-minute quiz to help you figure out your type - link in bio. Drop your result in the comments, I'd love to know which one resonates 🤍

#peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #personalgrowth #selfdiscovery #selfawarenessjourney

Being disconnected from your own wants and decisions is often a learned survival pattern - not your actual personality.

A lot of people were conditioned to distrust themselves early:
• being criticized for choices
• having preferences dismissed
• being punished for getting things “wrong”
• learning approval mattered more than authenticity

Over time, constantly deferring to other people can start to feel safer than listening to yourself.

But self trust is rebuilt the same way it was lost:
through repetition.

Small choices.
Tiny acts of self permission.
Letting yourself have preferences without needing validation first.

Not because you’ll always make the “right” decision - but because you deserve a relationship with yourself that isn’t built on fear.

Sometimes healing starts with something as small as choosing what you actually want for dinner and not asking anyone else what they think.

#selfdiscovery #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #lifecoach #findyourself

A girl and her people-pleasing demon. A bit of light hearted content vs the usual - I hope this gives you a chuckle 😅

For part of my own personal healing journey, I'm trying to figure out how to "play" again, and while meditating last night I had this skit play through my head and thought it would be fun to create... I had a few ideas but this was the first one 😆

Also cut me some slack, I'm living out of a backpack currently so I have limited resources to work with here 😂😂😂 obviously a black bra would have been a little more suiting buuuut I don't have one with me 😆
Anyway, just a first try - it's silly, but I hope it resonates for someone 😅

much love to you all 🤍

#peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #lifecoach #funnyskit #selfdiscovery

A lot of people think people pleasing is kindness.
But most of the time, it’s fear.

Fear of conflict. Fear of rejection. Fear of disappointing someone. Fear that if you fully expressed yourself, your needs, your boundaries, your hurt, your anger, your truth — you would become difficult to love.

So instead, you adapt.

You stay agreeable. Easygoing. Low maintenance. Self aware enough to never ask for “too much.”

But what people don’t realize is that constantly suppressing yourself doesn’t create peace in relationships. It creates disconnection.

And eventually your body starts telling the truth your mouth won’t:
• tension
• anxiety
• emotional exhaustion
• irritability
• shutting down
• withdrawing from people
• feeling unseen while simultaneously never letting yourself be seen

You cannot build real intimacy from self abandonment. Real connection requires honesty. And honesty will sometimes create discomfort.
That doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It means you’re finally existing in the relationship too.

#peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #authenticitycoach #findyourself #selfdiscovery

EFT tapping works because your emotions are not just “in your head.”
They live in your nervous system and your body.

When you spend years people-pleasing, suppressing emotions, over-functioning, abandoning yourself, or constantly staying hypervigilant to other people’s needs, your body learns those patterns as survival.

That’s why you can understand something logically (“I know I shouldn’t care what people think”) and still feel physically anxious, guilty, unsafe, frozen, or emotionally overwhelmed.

Your body is still carrying the pattern.

EFT helps interrupt that stress response by combining:
• focused attention on the emotion/thought
• verbal acknowledgement of what’s true
• stimulation of acupressure/meridian points on the body

The tapping itself helps regulate the nervous system while the words help bring unconscious emotional patterns into awareness instead of continuing to suppress them.

By saying a different sentence at each tapping point we’re gently moving through layers of the emotional experience.

One point may acknowledge the fear.
Another may acknowledge the belief you learned.
Another may process the grief, anger, guilt, shame, or exhaustion underneath it.
Then we begin introducing safety, self-acceptance, and new beliefs your nervous system can actually start receiving.

Depending on what you're working on, you may simply use the same sentence through the whole round.

You are not “manifesting” over your emotions.
You are processing them.

That’s why tapping can feel emotional, relieving, activating, calming, exhausting, grounding — sometimes all at once.

You are finally allowing your body to stop holding what it’s been carrying alone.

And over time, that’s how you create actual emotional safety within yourself instead of constantly searching for it outside of you.

#peoplepleasing #peoplepleaser #healingera #lifecoach #eft

Self-abandonment doesn’t feel dramatic when it’s happening.
It feels like being “easygoing”, or “mature”, or keeping the peace.

But over time?
👉 you end up in relationships that don’t fully see you
👉 in work that doesn’t reflect you
👉 in a life that feels slightly off - even if it looks okay from the outside

Because you weren’t choosing what you wanted. You were choosing what felt safest.
And those choices compound.

#findyourself #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #healingera #lifecoach

The whole concept of to be good or pure you must resist or not have any desires, is to go against your true nature.

You are a creator - you are meant to experience ups and downs so you can get clear on what you *do* want - you create your own preferences so you can build a life that suits you best.

Learn to love the feeling of true desire - the knowing that it is yours, that you already have it.
Not the feeling of lack.

#emotionalintelligence #energyawareness #selfdiscovery #desire #spirituality

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I strive to create a safe and supportive environment where all clients feel valued and respected regardless of their gender, sexual orientation, race, age, religion, or socioeconomic status.
I understand that every client’s beliefs and experiences are unique and will approach every interaction with an open mind, and without judgment.
I will actively and empathetically listen to every client
I will respect and support their decisions without imposing my own views
I use client-centered holistic approaches to help clients navigate challenges, find resolutions and effective solutions, and reach their goals.
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I will only share client information with their explicit consent, except when required by law or if there is a risk of harm.
Integrity and honesty will be held and maintained in all interactions, upholding a high standard of professionalism.
I continually seek to improve my knowledge and skills through ongoing education and self-reflection to provide the best possible service to my clients.
I will maintain clear and professional boundaries with clients to avoid any conflicts of interest or inappropriate relationships that could impair professional judgment or client trust.
I hold myself accountable to this Code of Ethics and welcome feedback to ensure my practices align with these principles.

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I support women in coming back to who they really are - peeling back people-pleasing, perfectionism, and old patterns, so they can reconnect with their emotions and start living a life that feels honest and aligned.

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